to love, not to love

[ 爱, 不爱? ]

picture taken from Internet

Men always scolds women saying she is so stupid, idiot and brainless
Men always feels impatience and lost temper when he talk to women
Men never cares about  women's tears, he just ignore her
Men never cares about women's feeling, he never saying words that women do not like to hear keep doing things that women do not like
Does he still loves the women?

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Women always get scold by men saying that she is so stupid, idiot and brainless
Women is terrified to talk to men for she always can't speak her minds out correctly but get scolded
Women do not like to cry but she feels miserable every time for what men did to her
Sooner, women feels disappointing and hold back all her feeling
Sooner, women learnt not to care about men and stays in her own world
Sooner, women felt tired and bored of men and all that she wants to do is to get out
Does she still loves the men?

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How possibly this two person going to continue their life together?
How possibly this two person still loving each other?

A Present

[ 礼物 ]

photo taken from the Internet

A woman bring her man to a branded outlet, wanted to buy a wallet for her man, as his valentine's present.

They heart a design, which comes in 2 colors, dark blue and dark brown. Woman likes the dark brown's, whereas the man likes the dark blue's.

Woman told her man, "If I'm the one who buy you this presents, I will take the dark brown's."

And there they go, they took the dark brown's.

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What does it mean by present anyway? It's something that we give to people that is based on our preference, or something that we give to people based on his/her preference?

To me, I think that since this thing will belongs to the person, sure I will pick something that the receiver would be happy to have. His/her preference will be the issue I will consider. Else, what's the point of giving someone something that he/she not going to use or do not like?

Moreover, both of the party went to shop for the present together, and the receiver already told his opinion. Shouldn't we just accept the receiver's opinion? What's the point of choosing the present together then? Is it still consider 'choosing the present together" ?

Seriously, what's the point of buying something that costs a sum but the person who is going to get it doesn't like it anyway?

Incompatible Ba-Zi

[ 八字不合 ]

A man has been with his woman for many years, and they finally decided to get married.

The mother of the man took their Ba-Zi for a compatible checking. Unfortunately, the result came out their Ba-Zi is not compatible. The woman would have damage the man's good fortune. The mother was so unhappy and commanded them to be separated.

The two actually loves each other very much. But the man is the eldest in his family. A younger brother is still at school. Family business still need his management. So what should they do? Obeyed to the mother and break-up? Disobeyed the mother and everybody scold them for being unfilial? And what if something bad happened, who should be responsible then?

In the end, the man thought of a way, 3 years. They should give each other 3 years to do own things, instead of get married back then. Man should take the 3 yeas to get the family business stable, to pass to the brother later. Woman should take the 3 years to continue her will, to further study aboard. In another word, they should break-up for 3 years. After 3 years, if both of them still love each other, then the man should pass the family business to his brother and get married with the woman.

Poor woman, lost the man for the bad Ba-Zi she has. A man she loves, and also loves her.

After a long long time, they eventually turned up break-up for real. The woman came back from oversea, and found herself a true love. She got married, and has a kid. 

But no sign for the man, no sure what actually happened to him..

Compromise = Pressure

[ 迁就 = 压力 ? ]

Guy says, do not always wait me at home, do not wait me for dinner, do not always wait me for this and that. I felt like looking after a child. It makes me feel pressured.

Girl's tears like the pouring rain after this.

Girl says, I spare all my time to you, so whenever you wanted to be with me, I can just go to you. Guy are busy, she knew and tried to understand it. She wish to spend more time with him, just like everybody else do, so they can share something together, or do something together. She doesn't mind if has to be with a group of friends together, she just want to be with him. Is this wrong?

Girl says, actually I just hope guy will concern more about me, takes me in his mind. Let me be with him, makes me exist in his life. Most importantly, cares about my feeling.

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Not sure what happened, but quite a number of friends got problem in their relationship. Well, in fact, it may happened every day, just that we didn't take note on that. A and B broke up. B and C are now together. C has a third-party hiding behind. Basically, anything could just happened.

I just want to write it down, as a notes. Who knows, you may find your shadow in one of this the stories?